Here’s a take on sports parenting from a guy who is just getting into it. Nick Houser is a fairly new dad, and is examining all those family traditions and sports attitudes from the fresh, new eyes of a father to a little guy. As many parents have, Nick has reflected on his own experience as youth sports participant, and shares his thoughts here at The Trophy Mom.
By Nick Houser
I grew up pushed into sports. I think most people my age, boys especially, were pushed into sports. There was a mentality that we had to do something, so it was either sports or work.
Baseball was everything in our house.
My dad tried to play. When he couldn’t go pro as a player, he tried to go pro as an umpire. But he always played in an old man’s league as well. My brothers both played as long as they could, too. One gained a collegiate scholarship.
I still recall the day I decided to quit. Read the rest of this entry »
Caught between too much and not enough
I found myself in this place where I think a lot of people end up– caught between too much and not enough. Too much stuff to do, too much running around, too much busy. Not enough time, not enough energy, not enough fulfillment. I don’t think you get to this place all it once. It happens gradually, as your family grows, your responsibilities increase, and the “too much” gets added to your life just one grain at a time, until you are overwhelmed and exhausted. Yet at the same time, at a loss to figure out a way to extricate yourself from it, because it all seems so necessary. What do you give up? Feeding the kids? Bad idea. Going to work? Another bad idea. Sleeping? Even worse idea.
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In my volunteer role as a league administrator, I get a lot of email. In technical terms, I believe a shit ton of email better describes the volume. Most of it is pretty ordinary– operations, deadlines, information stuff. Until someone gets mad about something, and then they fire off a nasty gram that could blister paint. I have developed pretty thick skin over the years so it’s not really upsetting to me (well, the grammar and spelling is upsetting, but not the content). Lately, following the word art trend, I’ve been inspired to think of some this correspondence in a new way, and have picked a few of my favorites with which to explore my creative side. All are real, unedited emails from coaches, managers or refs of youth teams and may contain some salty language. Without further disclaimer, I present, for your enjoyment, the Email from Coaches Word Art Gallery. Read the rest of this entry »
We are moving on to round two in the recycle old sports trophies and medals and such project. So as not to set the bar too high, we are tackling another easy one, upcycling (trendy word for taking old junk and making it into new junk) medals into magnets to use on the fridge or any other metal surface. This is so stinking easy! If this were a Learn to Skate program, it would be appropriate for the third group–the kids that can barely stand up and try to suck their thumbs through the helmet cage. Read the rest of this entry »
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We live in very real danger of being impaled by a sports trophy. Hockey, baseball, softball and soccer trophies hang out in the house alongside important things like the TV remote and the Waterford pitcher we got as a wedding gift (surprisingly still in one piece). After nixing the idea of adding a trophy wing to the house, we instead moved to cull the herd of gold figurines and got rid of anything that wasn’t a first place finish or individual award. Yet still they lurk in small gangs–on bookshelves, dressers, from closets, the mudroom, the living room–staring expressionlessly, stuck in an unnatural frozen pose, feet moored to a base of plastic.
It kind of creeps me out.
As I have mentioned in the past, I am not the crafty domestic sort. But I am a believer in making something out of nothing and not being wasteful. So after consultation with the winners of these trophies, we are moving to dismantle the collection and put the trophies, or at least parts of them, to good use. Some time spent surfing Pinterest yielded a few doable ideas, and since you probably have a treasure trove of trophies and medals at your house, I’ll post the results of my efforts– successes and failures.
This week, I broke out the craft supplies and got to work on Project #1. We are going to make decorative wine stoppers from trophies. Project #1 involves wine, looks super easy, no sewing involved and I get to use the cordless drill. Seemed like high potential for success and I needed a confidence boost, so that’s why we picked this for the first project. Read the rest of this entry »
We are pretty fortunate at our house. For starters, we have health care. Second, our employers give us the option of a Flexible Spending Arrangement (FSA) for medical expenses. And third, emergency room visits and trips to the orthopedist were way down this year. A record low — only 8 total — stitches, no broken bones, separated shoulders or sprained MCLs. Yep, it was a pretty good year.
So the good news is a healthy family. The bad news is we have a lot of money left in our FSA this year. And with the restrictions on how that money can be spent, it means we either stock up on heating pads, sunblock and contact solution or we lose that money. Well, even a mom on a mission to wipe out melanoma can only go through so much sunblock. And losing our hard-earned money isn’t an attractive option either. So we came up with another solution. Read the rest of this entry »