Step away from the ledge: a survival guide for sports parents

We are in the doldrums of winter and your youth sports team forecast is dreary with a chance of losing it. The long season is wearing on you. Your player has managed to lose one uniform sock and has worn a hole in his $45 warmup pants. That super spirited mom with the team cheers and cowbell is causing your eye to twitch. The motivational speeches from the assistant coach P1010134are wearing thin, and if you get one more team email about snack schedules, you might blow.

The bloom is off the rose, people, and it’s easy to start focusing on the negative. Maybe your team won-loss record isn’t what you thought it would be, or your kid isn’t in the starting lineup every game. We’ve still got a long way to go, so let’s take a step back from the ledge and get some perspective. Read the rest of this entry »

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8 New Year resolutions for sports parents

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Yikes, the New Year is upon us! Seems like it goes by faster and faster each year, doesn’t it?

A peek around the Interwebs shows that everybody and their brother is whipping out a New Year resolutions list. Truth be told, I’m not a big one for New Year resolutions but this gives me an excuse to write one of those trendy new “7 Reasons to . . . ” titles, so here we go with The Trophy Mom’s 8 New Year Resolutions for Sports Parents.
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Ed Arnold’s “make it fun, make it fair” approach for youth hockey

Here’s a treat for my readers– a guest post by Ed Arnold, former editor of The Peterborough Examiner, and my personal hockey coach/author hero. One of my more popular posts was the Recommended Reading List for the Thinking Sports Parent, and the first book I mention is Ed’s title, Whose Puck Is It, Anyway?  He’s finishing up a book on his time spent with the Peterborough Petes, an OHL hockey team, that should be out in later this year. Ed and I got hooked up through the magic of the interwebs and he agreed to write a post for the Trophy Mom. I hope you share it with your coaching friends.

By Ed Arnold

Whose Puck Is It, Anyway?Children’s hockey is a strange relationship. We think and talk like we just want to make sure the game is fun for the kids, but then act in different ways.

We all would like to make it fun for the children but then put so many obstacles in their way.

Tyke or hockey for four, five and six year olds is one of the stranger concepts. We want the kids to learn to skate, stickhandle, pass and have fun, but then we put them in games where only the better ones get to skate, stickhandle, pass and have fun.

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Battle midseason malaise

We’re about halfway through the hockey season and it’s starting to wear on me. And judging by the crabby parents and a general malaise at the rink, I think the wear and tear of the season is getting to everyone.

The sparkle has worn off and we’ve settled in to a routine– go to practice, play a game. Go to another practice, then another. Sharpen skates. Book a hotel. Drive to a tournament. Play more games. Drive home. Sharpen skates. Wash jerseys and lucky t-shirts. No trophies this year; not yet anyway. Just a long slog through another seemingly endless hockey season.

No matter how much your kids enjoy playing, or how much you enjoy watching, at some point you kinda wish it would be over and you’d have your weekends and Tuesday nights back. And that people would pay their ice bills on time and the rink would get the schedule together. But I digress. So how to you fight the malaise? How do you restore some of the luster to a long season? Go back to the basics. Not basic skills. Basic FUN. Read the rest of this entry »